Growing up their were many chores that I had to help my mom with. My brothers would play video games, or played soccer while I got stuck washing dishes, sweeping and mopping. I have three brothers and no sisters,so I felt as if I had no choice but to help my mom.
I didn't mind because she was tired from working all day. I just didn't understand why my brothers didn't have to help out. They were all in perfect condition to help. They all had hands, and they were no going to become a girl was what I would tell myself. It wasn't until I was about 14 years old when I finally put my foot down. I felt that my brothers were taking advantage of me. They would ask me to serve them, take them a fork, juice or whatever they needed. I would do it because I didn't want them to get mad, but enough was enough. Yes, once in awhile it was okay, but not all the time. My parents are always neutral with the chores around the house. I asked my parents to talk to my brothers and tell them that they needed to start helping out. At first my brothers laughed and they said that it was a girls job! Their laughs' didn't last long. That same day my parents divided the chores. I was so happy!
Gender has shaped my identity and impacted my life in many ways. For a long time I felt that only women should do this or do that. I think it's fine to pamper your husband/ partner, but always making sure that they appreciate what you do. I'm a strong hard working mom, and I'm happy of who I have become.
My dad is now retired. He is the one who stays home cleans and cooks. My brothers and I help him with the chores around the house. Even though chores are a never ending story.
Overall, I feel that chores should be equally distributed no matter what the gender may be. Yes, there is some chores that are more difficult than others; however, that shouldn't stop a man/women from doing an easier chore.
I didn't mind because she was tired from working all day. I just didn't understand why my brothers didn't have to help out. They were all in perfect condition to help. They all had hands, and they were no going to become a girl was what I would tell myself. It wasn't until I was about 14 years old when I finally put my foot down. I felt that my brothers were taking advantage of me. They would ask me to serve them, take them a fork, juice or whatever they needed. I would do it because I didn't want them to get mad, but enough was enough. Yes, once in awhile it was okay, but not all the time. My parents are always neutral with the chores around the house. I asked my parents to talk to my brothers and tell them that they needed to start helping out. At first my brothers laughed and they said that it was a girls job! Their laughs' didn't last long. That same day my parents divided the chores. I was so happy!Gender has shaped my identity and impacted my life in many ways. For a long time I felt that only women should do this or do that. I think it's fine to pamper your husband/ partner, but always making sure that they appreciate what you do. I'm a strong hard working mom, and I'm happy of who I have become.
My dad is now retired. He is the one who stays home cleans and cooks. My brothers and I help him with the chores around the house. Even though chores are a never ending story.
Great narrative here! Parts of this will be great content for your Identity essay since these experiences certainly shape who you are today.
ReplyDeleteI like the part where you decide to put your foot down and say what you think is right. I think in a lot of situations people usually don't want to do that. I like your story and it's good that your brother help now!
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